About

I spent twenty years looking for the way out. What I found is what I now share.

I’m Justinas. If you ended up here, there’s probably some version of the same question running under your day-to-day — why am I not happy, what am I actually supposed to be doing, how did I end up here. I know the texture of that question well. I lived inside it for two decades.

The twenty years

I tried what most thoughtful people try when life feels off but nothing dramatic has gone wrong. I read the books. I sat with the practices — meditation, mindfulness, breathwork. I tried manifestation when that wave was loud. I went through several coaching modalities. Some helped a little. Most left me feeling like I was missing the actual lever and just rearranging furniture.

Along the way I met a lot of people doing the same. People with good careers, good families, good lives on paper, sitting with the same low static of this isn’t quite mine. That recognition — that it wasn’t just me — was one of the early useful things.

What eventually shifted

The thing that finally started to move the needle wasn’t another method. It was getting honest about the layer underneath all the methods — the core beliefs we’re running without realising. The quiet stories about who we are, what we deserve, what’s possible, what we’d be punished for, what we’re “supposed” to want. These run the show. Whatever method you layer on top — meditation, journaling, productivity systems — if it doesn’t touch that layer, you end up performing the practice while the underlying programming keeps the same life shape.

Once that layer became visible to me, two things happened. First, my own decisions started to feel like mine again. Not dramatically — gradually. Less hesitation. Less postponing. More actually doing the thing I keep saying I want to do. Second, when friends came to me sitting with their own stuck places, I could spot the same kind of patterns running underneath. We’d work through them together, slowly. They began to change in ways that were hard to fake: less laziness, more initiative, decisions that had been stuck for years finally getting made.

Why this site exists

After those first friend-sessions, it became obvious that what I’d slowly figured out was useful to people I wasn’t already close to. So I built this. I have a few hours every day for one-on-one sessions with anyone who needs an outside view on what feels stuck — in their direction, their decisions, their motivation, the goals they keep setting and not finishing.

The sessions are free. After the session, if it helped, you decide what it was worth (any amount, including a symbolic one). I run it this way because my time is genuinely limited and I’d rather the door stay open to people who can’t pay traditional coaching rates than have a high gate at the entrance.

What I’m honest about

I’m a coach — not a psychologist, not a therapist, not a doctor. I have no clinical credentials and I don’t treat clinical conditions. If you’re going through depression, trauma, addiction, panic, an eating disorder, or any thought of harming yourself, please see a licensed clinician. Coaching can sit alongside clinical care, but it can’t replace it. International helplines: findahelpline.com. (More on that in the disclaimer.)

What I can be useful for: the long-form drift. The decision that’s been waiting too long. The sense that you’ve outgrown the shape of your life but haven’t put a new one on the table. The motivation that won’t arrive because the direction isn’t honest yet. The goals that keep getting set and abandoned. The quiet midlife reconsideration that has no name.

The people I’ve sat with

Over the years I’ve had real conversations with a very wide range of humans. On one end, 80-year-old music legends — people who’ve been around long enough to have made every kind of mistake, watched their generation move through every kind of season, and have the patience to say it plainly. On the other end, young people in their twenties making the early breakthroughs that quietly redirect a whole life. And the full spectrum in between — founders, parents, professionals in mid-careers they’ve outgrown, people in transitions they don’t have a name for yet.

I applied what I was learning to myself and to my own surroundings first, in real time. That’s why I think I can be perceptively useful to others now: across those twenty years I’ve watched the same patterns play out in many different lives, and I can see what tends to actually work and what tends to be a comforting detour.

A bit of context, briefly

My professional background is strategic analysis and brand positioning — including projects with Samsung and Vinted. In parallel, I’m a working composer and musician (so if you’re wondering whether I actually do the things I keep saying matter, like creative practice and showing up — I do). Both of those backgrounds taught me to read people and situations carefully. The coaching work is the natural next move — using what I’ve learned about pattern-reading and self-honesty to help others see their own situation clearly.

I speak Lithuanian and English. Sessions in either, however you’re more honest.

How the session actually runs

One hour. The format you chose — chat, voice call, or video call. Video tends to be most personal, voice is easier if cameras feel like a lot, chat is for when speaking the words is the hard part. Whichever, the hour belongs to your situation, not a script.

Before we meet, I’ll send you a short questionnaire. Nothing long — the point is to arrive into our hour already knowing the shape of what you’re working with, so we don’t spend the first thirty minutes on context. That makes the time we actually have with each other much more useful.

If you’d like to talk

Send a short note about what’s on your mind. I read every message personally and reply within 24 hours to arrange a time. Free to book. Pay what you want afterwards only if it actually helped.

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